Unlock Your Destiny: The decision I avoided making taught me a lesson!
You can achieve more, instantly, by making an irrevocable decision! This is goal setting at its best!
Decision making is critical in shaping your destiny and achievement. In fact, it could be the one thing holding you back!
Tony Robbins once said ‘Decisions Determine Destiny’. There are six crucial steps to making effective decisions that drive personal growth and fulfillment, that can help you live your destiny.
In this video, I discuss how to overcome negativity, setting and acting on goals, and the significance of deep, irrevocable commitments. Tune in to learn how to transform your life by making powerful decisions today. Entrepreneur motivation begins and ends with clear, concise vision and goal-setting, powered by an immovable decision!
Chapters in Decisions Determine Destiny
00:00 Overcoming Negativity and Hopelessness
02:14 The Power of Goal Setting
03:55 Principle 1: You haven’t decided if you don’t take action on your goals!
05:22 Principle 2: Write Down Procrastinated Decisions
06:37 Principle 3: Act Now on One of Your Small Goals!
07:29 Principle 4: Act Now on One of Your BIG Goals!
08:11 Principle 5: Know How It Feels to Make A Radical Decision!
10:32 Principle 6: Ask – Would I walk through a wall for this goal?
10:58 Embracing Fear and Personal Power
Transcript: Decisions Determine Destiny
So there’s a decision that I have failed to make for the last four years, but making this decision and my lessons from it will help me determine my destiny.
If you pay attention to the headlines today or any day, really, you’re gonna see a lot of negativity. They’re gonna want you to be full of fear. They’re gonna want you to think that there’s no hope for tomorrow.
I had a little bit of this in the early two thousands when 9- 11 happened and the headlines were horrible. There was no future for us. There was no hope.
I spoke to a teacher in the gym last week of high schoolers. And I asked him, as I ask many people, “What is their vision? What is their hope? What are their goals for the future?”
And the teacher said quite clearly, without hesitation, “There is no hope for college. There’s no hope for jobs. They are given into utter nihilism.”
And that caught me off guard. And I asked him, I said, “What’s causing this?” He said, “Well, they’re consuming content consistently daily, constantly. And what’s more is they’re watching their siblings move home because it was too difficult in the world. Homes were too expensive. They can’t afford to live.
They might even have good coding jobs or technology jobs. They might have lived in the city, but realized they can’t make it out there. So they’re moving home. And so the younger generation, the younger siblings in school, still are not just. a little hopeless. They’re not concerned about the future.
They’re actually completely hopeless. They’re not planning anything in the future. He said they’re utterly hopeless.
Now, I thought I’d seen hopeless situations in Haiti. I visited Kenya and South Africa and I had seen in the shantytowns a lot of stuff that I would consider quite hopeless.
But the interesting paradox is in a lot of those areas, those people have become used to living with not a lot and they know that it takes goals. It takes grit. But more than that, it takes an irrevocable decision to take action for those dreams, in order to achieve more.
So as I thought about these students, and I saw the headlines over the weekend.
And we’re looking at an economy that’s more wrecked than I’ve seen probably since the real estate crisis of 2008. And that was another season of massive hopelessness.
Regardless of these external conditions, I’m here to encourage you that you can still, more than ever, live a life of powerful fulfillment.
You can live your destiny, and it takes A powerful decision.
Now I often teach in goal setting that all it takes is a goal and we often start with goals. It’s the starting point of living a passionate life, living a life where you achieve more.
You travel more. You love more. You just live this invigorated life and it does start with goal setting.
But what happens in real life is when you start down the path towards your goals, you encounter challenges nearly immediately.
You encounter resistance from the world Because the law of the world is entropy, and the law of thermodynamics, which is really the law of entropy, which things generally approach a neutral state.
But for you to achieve more money, you have to generate a high energy state. For you to travel the world, you have to generate a high energy state in your money. And your scheduling and your focus .
This high energy state is what you do to pull together the time, energy, resources, and focus to achieve any of the big goals you want to achieve. Even if it’s just traveling to another part of the world.
That travel takes your focus. When someone asked you to do X, Y and Z, but that money is the money you were going to spend to travel to Tokyo or Japan.
It takes a lot of focus for you to resist that or come up with a way to say no in a kind way so that you don’t burn that relationship, but so that you move more towards your goals. That’s a higher energetic state.
The people who operate in chaos and just go with the flow are often people who are giving into entropy. They’re giving away their energy.
So it takes something more than just writing your goals.
Today I’m here to relay to you a principle that Tony Robbins relayed and his statement or his quote was decisions determine destiny.
And Tony Robbins shared a few principles as it comes to decision making so that you know a whether or not you’ve even really made a decision. And B. You can benefit both from the time, energy and focus it takes to accomplish your dreams by truly making a real decision.
Principle one is this: You haven’t really made a decision if you don’t take action.
Or said another way, you know you’ve made a decision if you take massive action. Taking action is the first indicator that you truly have made a decision.
If you make a decision and you don’t put it on your calendar, or you don’t take action towards it, the truth is, is you haven’t really made a decision. If you think you’ve made a decision and you’re waiting for something to happen correctly for you to act on that, you haven’t really made a decision. If you’re procrastinating or waiting, if you haven’t written it down, if you haven’t allocated time or money to that thing, you haven’t Really made a decision and you can find this a lot of times when someone says they have a goal and they’ve made a decision and it’s, it’s gone on and you can feel from them that there’s a lot of energy lost around it.
There’s no momentum in that thing. You can sense that they’ve been kind of saying this thing for a while.
For example, this happened with me and has for years. It’s kind of become a running joke. I want to plant fruit trees and I just never have. It’s just something I want to do.
I live in central florida. I should have fruit trees. I should be able to walk out into my yard and pick some fruit and eat it. And I’ve been talking about it long enough that when I mentioned this to Marissa, my partner, Nicole, my partner, Amber, my employee, they all kind of chuckle and laugh because I’ve been saying it for years.
And that’s just a small thing. Many people have these things for big things. Their dream to move to another city, their dream to change jobs.
You know people like that.
So you haven’t made a decision unless you take massive action towards that thing. That’s the first principle.
The second principle towards making decisions that determine your destiny is to write down the decisions that you’ve been procrastinating.
While we’re talking or pause this video, write down some of the decisions that you know, you’re procrastinating; decisions that are important to you.
Now there may or may not be decisions that are important to you that are very low on your priority list. Do not give these any energy. Don’t make decisions on things you don’t need to make decisions on that are inconsequential.
But for things that you know inside of you, and you know, when you do a gut check, there are decisions you should make that you’ve been ruminating on trying to find a better way to do.
Solve it. Make a decision.
Either decide to not do it. Then get rid of it. Write it on a piece of paper. Throw it in the fire. Throw it away. Decide to not do it and then never think about it again.
If you ruminate on it again later, you didn’t make the decision. Decide to not do that thing or decide to do that thing and then write it on the calendar.
Say, “I’m going to plan this thing out,” or even brainstorm it a little bit in a note and then put the first step on your calendar.
If you do not put that first step on your calendar, You’re not committed to the thing. You didn’t make the decision and you’re wasting time expelling energy with these decisions that you’re not making.
So the second step is write a list of the decisions you need to make. That’s the second step.
The third step is to act right now on a simple item on that list.
Take one of the lower, less consequential decisions that you’ve been putting off. When to go to the grocery store, when to put your laundry away, when to check the mail.
Maybe it’s to have that one conversation, to call your parent or something like that. Make that decision.
Right now and act on it. Don’t just make the decision, act on it.
Actually pick up the phone and call your parent if you’ve been putting that decision on. Or if you’re not going to call them decide “I’m not going to call them,” and quit ruminating on it. If that decision is to buy cryptocurrency go out and buy five, ten, fifteen dollars worth of cryptocurrency and get it done. Or if you’re not going to do it decide to not do it and put it to the side.
Take an action on a small, relatively inconsequential thing and get it done.
You will notice that your energy gets higher. You will notice that you’ll get more positive. You will notice that you’ll actually start believing, “Oh, I’m going to get some of this done,” and you’ll see momentum. That leads you to the fourth thing.
The fourth thing is take action on a bigger item, something that might take several steps. Something that’s more of a project than just an action.
Basically the difference between a task and a project is a project is the net result of an accumulation of sequential tasks, right?
So maybe you have a bigger project. Maybe it’s a diet. Maybe it’s fitness. Maybe it’s dating someone. Maybe it’s changing the city you live in. Maybe it’s something that’s a little bit bigger like that.
The first step you’re going to do, your action, and you need to act on this today, is to actually brainstorm the multiple steps it takes.
Write down the list of things you want to do for this bigger project, but take action on that today and then take one of the tasks from that project and get it done today.
So you’ve taken action on that smaller project and taking action on that bigger project.
The fifth component of decision making is understanding truly what it feels like to make a radical decision.
The importance of this is most people don’t understand deep commitment.
They have a passing commitment.
They have a very quick view of what commitment means. Commitment in a job used to mean 10, 20, 30 years. Commitment in a job today, you are very committed if you stayed in a job for two years. That’s considered a long commitment and it’s getting shorter.
We know about attention spans getting shorter, but this also impacts how people commit. They commit into a relationship. If they dated someone for two months, that’s a long relationship commitment these days.
People don’t understand the power of an irrevocable commitment. This is a hell or high water commitment. This is, “I will die on this hill.”
The only people to actually get fit are people who have made an irrevocable commitment. “Come hell or high water, I don’t care if I have to change when or how my kids get dropped off to school. I don’t care when or how I have to change how I eat. I don’t care what I have to do for those other commitments like those social groups.
If I’ve made an irrevocable commitment to, my fitness goals, I will change all of it.
That is what an irrevocable commitment is. You change your life. And the best way to change your life is to take massive action.
So the fifth component of making decisions that can change your destiny are understanding what it feels like to make an irrevocable decision because actions will come to mind nearly immediately.
You will start making action plans in your mind immediately.
I remember when I decided that I was going to work in Haiti. We didn’t have money. We didn’t have time. We didn’t have sponsorships, but we bought the plane ticket, got on a plane and rode the country on the back of a moped handing out rice and just getting to know people in the middle of the time in Haiti when they were only eating dirt cookies. That compassion came over me and I realized I am making an irrevocable commitment to help these people and I took action on it.
When I made an irrevocable decision to move to the Dominican Republic, I started saving up money. I stopped eating out. Started putting money away until we had about 30, 000 in a bank account and we moved to the country and we could have lived for two years on that money.
I describe all of this and paint these pictures so that you get a sense of what it means to make an irrevocable decision.
So the sixth step is this: I want you to take inventory of this list of decisions you’ve been procrastinating, and I want you to read them over and I want you to ask yourself this question: _would I walk through a wall for these decisions?_
Would I move heaven and earth to change what people think of me by pursuing this thing?
Now, not every decision has to be that critical, but you need to look for the place inside of you that says, Nope, this is who I am.
And I don’t mean are you not afraid.
Fear is a component of all of this at all times. The difference between a cowardly person and a bold person is a person who acts in spite of their fear.
Your destiny will not be fearless. You might get to a point eventually over time where you lose the fear of making decisions. That will take time, but that doesn’t happen overnight. You need to build that muscle over time. You need to learn how to make decisions in spite of being afraid.
Fear is not the measure of whether or not you should make the decision.
You should use that fear as a sensor of sorts to kind of inspect the thing a little bit further, but it is not the decision maker. Your will and your determination are.
So I share all of this: writing down your list of decisions that you’ve been procrastinating, taking action on one of those things today, taking action on a big thing today and brainstorming the steps, knowing what it feels like to make an irrevocable decision for something and you will discover a personal power that you cannot stop.
You will discover the will, the courage in spite of your fear to take action and your life will start to improve. You’ll start to be fulfilled. You’ll start to visit those countries you want to visit. You’ll start to talking to that potential girl or guy that you’ve been trying to talk to. You will actually find a boldness and a courage and therefore an adventure and a joy.
Adventure does not come randomly and spontaneously, usually. Usually adventure comes on the other side of very difficult decisions that you’ve made to change your life. And then the adventure starts unfolding again because the world starts unfolding before you and the universe starts bringing energy and power and people and resources to you.
Once you get your spirit moving again and to get your spirit moving again, you got to make big decisions that determine your destiny.
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